Friday, June 20, 2008

Another year older

On Sunday, June 22, 1978 I will be another year older. This year I'm celebrating the big 3-0. I remember being 16 and thinking it was light years away, but alas it's not, it's only 1.5 days away. The years have come and went and I look at myself and say, "Is this where I thought I was going to be."

With gas prices pushing $4.50, and a recession looming, I consider myself blessed. I have a job, health benefits, a car to drive, and a roof over my head (even if I still live at home). There are many Americans who don't have these things. When I think about the disasterous rains and tornedos that have hit the mid-west, I realize many individuals from that region of the country have lost some of the things I just mentioned. Life can be so fragile and if we're not careful it can be gone in an instant. I don't know about you, but Tim Russert's death competely caught me off guard. None of us really ever know, do we?

Am I where I thought I would be? No, but I'm definitely in a better place than I was five years ago. I feel like I can see a glimpse of light at the end of the tunnel. I have to thank my family (Dawn and Esther), my circle of friends, my boyfriend Karim, and some mentors who've come into my life. I'm really thankful for the mentors because they believed in me when I didn't believe in myself. I'm finally starting to see the fruits of my labor, especially with the screenwriting and I'm even getting back into acting. Who knew?

Turning 30 is tough for many different reasons, but it is not as bad as people make it out to be. Years ago, it used to be the end of the road for a woman. Your life was over if you weren't married with kids. I know some cultures still subscribe to this belief, but I'm glad it's not how I was raised. I'll admit, I used to think turning 30 was the end of the world. It's not, the world around me has changed and will continue to change. I have to stand guard and be ready for some of those changes and do my best to embrace them.

I'm glad to say I made it another year and that turning 3o isn't that bad, life could be much worse. Just watch the news and you'll know what I mean.

Friday, June 13, 2008

Verdict in: R. Kelley Not Guilty

Although I am not surprised, I still have to say I'm disgusted by the not-guilty verdict for R. Kelley. I hope that I'm never arrested, but if I am, it better only be for political reasons. If I wind up having to deal with our judicial system like many folks of color, my only hopes of staying free while charged and avoiding years of hard labor in lock up is having a bank account with zeros that seem to never end. It's no secret that money buys justice in the United States.

R. Kelly was quoted as saying the following in Jennifer Vineyard's article, "Robert has said all along that he believes in the system, and he believes in God, and when the facts would be presented in court, he would be cleared," Kelly spokesman Allan Mayer said afterward. "He did not expect it to take six years. This has been a terrible ordeal for him and his family. He wants to move forward and put it behind him. He thanks his fans, and he thanks God. He'll have more to say very soon, but right now, he needs time to be with his family."

Now R. Kelly can focus on reclaiming his title as the "King of R&B," and his supporter can go back to buying his records and seeing his shows. I never went to an R. Kelly concert and never will. I won't see hear and say I'll never listen to his songs, but when I hear them I'll always think about this case and his trial. I saw the video and still believe him to be guilty, but like OJ he's a free man. Articles on the web also indicate that prosecution's witnesses were weak, which gave the jury reasonable doubt. In essence the case had a lot of flaws from the beginning and R. Kelly benefited from all of them.

There's a saying that a "leopard doesn't change its spots," if your like me and believe that saying, you know that perverts, pedophiles, and molesters offend until they get caught. Time will tell and in the meantime life goes on.

Monday, June 2, 2008

Sold on Sex

Hello all,

I'm sure most of you are sold on the idea of sex, if not for the enjoyment, probably for the continuation of the human race. However, I'm not talking about the act, at least not directly, I'm talking about the movie, Sex and the City. The film had hype over a year ago when it was announced that the hit HBO series would tie up all the loose ends with a film. I've have to admit I was a disbeliever, yeah, I loved the show, hell I envisioned my life being like the show after college (boy was I naive), but with the gossip of squabbles on the film set and a very long hiatus I didn't think it would hit. And I sure wasn't going to see it.

I was wrong on both accounts. Yes, I did see Sex and the City this past opening weekend (with my mom and sister) and boy did it hit big. It hit 55 million dollars big, knocking Indian Jones to second place with a strong finish of 46 million dollars for it's second weekend. But like the industry analysts I under estimated "girl power" at the box office. Not only did I under estimate the power of the female dollar, I forgot how much I loved the show, a show that changed the way women of all ages talked about sex, relationships, money, and fashion.

Don't worry I'm not going to spoil the movie for those who haven't seen it yet. There will be no talk of plot and story in this blog. Instead I'm going to talk about the impact the show has had in my life. But before I go on, I will say that Sex in the City is a chick flick that hits on all the emotions woman look for in a good film. I laughed, I cried, and of course I admired the fashion. Everyone looked New York chic. Men be wary, that is unless you are a gay man or a fan of the show.

Seeing the film, reminded me why I fell in love with the show in the first place. I wanted what the characters Carrie, Charlotte, Miranda, and Samantha wanted- love and success - and in their case I also envied their great jobs and fabulous wardrobes. Like many women, I saw bits of myself and my girlfriends in these characters.

The movie has helped me to gage where I'm at with obtaining some of my goals. I still don't have a pair of Jimmy Choos or Manolo Blahnik's in my closet and probably won't unless I find them on a clearance rack at DSW, but now my success is not defined in such material terms. Reality has forced me to down grade on some of my more narcissistic and idealist expectations in life. I haven't gotten rid of them all, but now that I'm almost 30 I feel like I much more reasonable.

I was inspired by the film. I love it when television and film has that effect on me, but when I think about it, the newly found inspiration I've found comes from a lot of things taking place in my life. Family, friends, a significant other, mentors, and co-workers (present and past) have helped me to get where I am today. I think viewing the film reminded me to look at those around me. I know real life doesn't have Hollywood happy endings, but that doesn't mean life isn't worth living.

At this moment, I feel like life is something to look forward to (which may change). I feel potential both within me and around me. What I get out of life is up to me. Do I have the commitment to never give up on myself or my goals? I think I do. I mean, yes, I do, of course. And although up until yesterday I was a disbeliever when it came the impact and influence of Sex and the City on the lives of women, now I'm sold and maybe you will be too.